I agree with the person above who promotes SoCal. Come back and surf kayak again!

D

Thinking of you and wishing the best for the future… I know this must be incredibly painful but time will help and a good guy like you will always come out of something like this for the better.

Dave and Lin.

I’m going to e-mail you with my cell number. You’re going to call me, and I’m going to take you out for ice cream. I haven’t really talked to you in forever, and it’ll be good to catch up.

Sorry to hear this happened to you. Hope everything will turn out all right.

Hang in there. All the best to you and your family.

*sending e-hugs*

I just want you to know that from the few times I’ve met you, I think you are really terrific. Not just you’re really funny when your toasted, or because you throw a mean party with donuts, bacon, and pizza.. .. mmh.. it helps though! *wink*

If you feel the need to make up a brute squad .. I wanna be the first to fully volunteer. Cause I am large and in charge baby! gimme something to do with all these many pounds and pounds of fercious cellulite!
;)

In seriousness though. You did all that you could on your part, and no one could have asked for anything more than that. In some cases you may feel like you did too much, but there was no other way for you to have changed that outcome. Not alot of people can walk away with that kind of.. clean break? I know you are all Northern Cali, but if you get a chance.. maybe head down towards the souf’. Southern cali has this power to heal alot of deep wounds. Take the time for you. Find out what you need. What you want. What you as a decent human being deserve. And never settle for any less.

Always,
Sah-rah.

I don’t know how much about my divorce you know, you can see the gory details here, but in brief: I know exactly what you’ve gone through, what you’re going through and, hopefully, where you’re heading. At the time everything was going on, some very good friends had a lot of good advice for me and none of it included the usual “everything will be fine” and “everything for a reason” rhetoric. Instead I was told it was ok to embrace my anger. That I was allowed to be outraged at a situation that couldn’t be described any better than screwed up. That mentally torturing myself, while not healthy, was perfectly reasonable given the events.

And I did. And I vented. And it felt good. And I moved past it and now everything is peachy but that isn’t to say the road I’ve walked was easy. You’re a good man, Dan. You’re better than Yayoi and you’re better than how she disrepected you by leading you on. Speaking from first hand experience I can tell you that while karma might never catch up with them, you will be a better man for having lived through this. In the end you tried your best and are emerging the bigger person and for my last little nugget of wisdom: do. not. under. any. circumstances. be. ashamed.

I was ashamed of what had happened to me for a great deal of time. I thought people would hear my story and see me as some Jerry Springer guest, moaning about how I was betrayed and taken advantage of. But as I told more and more people I knew, I was left with the impression that I was right in feeling wronged. There’s nothing ok with what was done and anyone with any sense of justice will agree with that.

I’m sorry this happened to you, and that the two of you couldn’t work this out to a better conclusion. But I’m glad you have the sense to look up and look forward, and that friends close by took the time to drag you out and help get your spirits back up.

Hang in there. You will get past this.